What We All Seem to Want

My “loneliness” post seemed to have resonated with many of you. The blog got close to 2000 views last month and I received a number of messages commenting on that post. People I know and those I do not, shared with me what struck them upon reading it and how it made them feel. I really appreciate the feedback; it’s nice to know how I may have connected in some way. The comments I received sort of fit into two camps. Those who could relate to the feelings of loneliness and those who appreciated the post’s “realness”. I felt that both were worthy of reflection and sharing.

I was so honoured by people’s willingness to share their own “lonely” stories and feelings of inadequacy with me. I heard from those of you also battling ALS, those battling other medical conditions and those battling the countless other challenges that life throws at us. The word isolation came up a few times and I thought, How sad is this? People should not be suffering in silence; smiling on the outside while crumbling inside. If you know of someone who may be hurting, take a minute to send a quick message, asking how they are doing and that they are being thought of/prayed for. It could end up being the most important part of their day.

There were those who enjoyed reading what was on my heart and mind because it was genuinely how I was feeling. I heard multiple times how tired people are of idle chitchat, and others only ever commenting, “I’m fine” when asked how they are doing.  I have always used writing as an outlet; for as long as I can remember I’ve been a journaler, but knowing I have people to share with is a lifeline I couldn’t do without. Obviously, having an illness like ALS makes it pretty much impossible to pretend I’ve got it all together, but why should anyone feel like they have to pretend?  I truly believe we all want to have relationships that are meaningful and transparent and not superficial. ‘Life is too short for fake butter, cheese or people’ (Twitter).

From what I understand, people pretty much want the same things; to have their voices heard and to use their ears to really listen. Listen to the heart, the grit, the real life stuff. Everyone should have someone they can trust and confide in. Be that person. Stop and think about who God might be putting in your path and why. Just don’t be too busy to notice. 😉

Until next time… keep the messages coming! You can use the Contact me button on the blog. 🙂

Leanne xo